The other day, Babble put up it’s list of picks for best Twitter Moms in a bevy of categories. I was happy for my friends @selfishmom (funniest) and @cecilyk (most controversial) but I felt a lot like I used to in Junior High School: not one of the popular girls.
And I’m not the only one – witness this tweet from @LooneyTunes:
@looneytunes: Have decided that someone needs to compile a list of 50 Top Moms Online that never make 50 Top Mom Lists.
See? Other people are also getting that Junior High snub-feeling.
I don’t know about your Junior High School, but at mine, popularity was everything. And there was nothing that symbolized your popularity better than being invited to a lot of Bar and Bat Mitzvahs.
Cynthia, the most popular girl at my Junior High, solidified her status when she was invited to seventeen Bar and Bat Mitzvahs. Nine bars and eight bats. Most of us had been invited to six or seven celebrations of adulthood that featured party themes that ranged from Mickey Mouse Mitzvah, to Get Down and Grow Up with Go Go Girls. But some of those invitations were reciprocal and didn’t count. Cynthia’s invitations were pure. She wasn’t even Jewish.
Back then, I was friendly with girls like Cynthia and her equally pimple-free, orthodontia immune posse, but I was not one of them.
Kinda like now. Kinda like the Twittersphere.
Now matter how many times I Tweet, how many Twitter parties I go to, how many @ replies I write, I don’t have a lot of Bar Mitzvah invites…uh, I mean followers. True, I don’t tweet obsessively over the course of my entire day, but real-life friends like @beccasara or @c2cmom tell me they’re never on for more than 15 or 20 minutes a day. And they have followers. Thousands of them.
So what’s wrong with me? I’m as snarky as the rest of ’em. I write nice, thoughtful #followfriday tweets. I give link love. I retweet. And yet, I have less than 400 followers.
Maybe it’s my frizzy hair. Or my teacher’s pet status.
Oh, wait. That was Junior High.
There are bullies on twitter. Cliques. And oh yes, there are the POPULAR girls.
There are conversations between the “influential bloggers” that I see all the time. I’ve tried to jump in, but it’s the same as it was in Junior High: I occasionally get an @ response. But mostly, I’m ignored. Even by the people that follow me.
I’d like not to care. I know it shouldn’t matter. But just like I obsessively check my (meager) blog stats, I can’t help but to obsess over my piddling follower numbers.
What am I doing wrong? Why don’t tweets like this one — “is it wrong to tweet during Rosh Hashana services? How ’bout if I atone at the same time?” — even get an lol?
There’s a lot of talk in the blogosphere about how well known mom bloggers should help other mom bloggers. How about well-known tweeters doing the same? How about they invite us along to a Bar Mitzvah or two?
I’ll even dance the hora.